A Closed Mouth

See the problem with most girls is that they don't speak up or say what they have to say, myself included. They either 1. Keep it in 2. Complain to the WRONG person or 3. (like what I do) Keep it in for so long that when it finally comes out it's a big pented ball spewing hot flames of anger and hate.

And here lies the problem, your thoughts or issues cannot be fixed until you voice them to the proper party. Stop keeping it in and allowing yourself to get angrier by the second. Many men will tell you like it is from the jump and just get it over with but I can't seem to understand why women like to drag the entire process out and drain everyone involved. Someone is bound to get hurt and it will most likely be you!

If something is bothering you don't let it bubble up until it gets out of control and becomes unmanageable. Nip it in the bud from the beginning. Men are not psychic! They cannot sense what you feeling on the inside. They probably won't dig any deeper than a few inches from the surface to decode what you are thinking/feeling to understand what you want from them. Chances are, no matter how many hints you give them, they probably still won't get it either. They are always straightforward with you with the things they want so why are you beating around the bush? Say what you have to say and let them know what's up.

The most important thing that ladies do not speak up about is how much they are feeling a guy for fear of I don't know what, he might not like you the same way or the "I don't want him to think that I'm being too pushy or forcing him into a relationship" bit. Let me tell you from now, let him know how you feel and establish it from the beginning. Women get into these relationships with one idea while men have a totally different spin on it. You either don't establish what the relationship is gonna be from the beginning or it's established and you start feeling otherwise. Someone, you, is and WILL get hurt before the day is over!

The key to eliminating the headache from the beginning is incorporating honesty into the equation and not going back on your word. Be honest and truthful and SPEAK UP because a closed mouth will never be fed!

I think today women are very scared to celebrate themselves, because then they just get labeled.
Charlize Theron